It can be difficult to access gratitude when we receive criticism if we are disposed to thinking of it as evidence to support the most painful stories we have about ourselves, which in whatever form they take in our minds, usually amount to: I'm not enough
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| Thank you for noticing my worth and helping me finish strong! |
The fact is, your worth and your value is absolute and nothing that you do and nothing that anyone else thinks about you can diminish your enoughness. (You didn't create you, so stop trying to take all the credit.) Nothing you think about you or anyone else changes it either, so why not think a wonderful thing about the person offering you criticism and most importantly about you?
What if the person who criticized you is offering feedback...
- To help you finish strong?
- To push you to grow?
- Because they are in pain that has nothing to do with you?
Even if the person says words in anger, you still get to choose whatever you want to think. When you think of their words as a gift, you are able to cultivate more love for yourself and for the person offering it in the first place, a gift to them. Think how much less painful such an encounter would be if you are simply willing to be wrong about both your own story and the other person.
It's a gift that will cost nothing of either of you and the only space it will occupy is in your newly-expanded heart.
If you found this simple exercise of believing a new thing gave you fresh perspective, consider working with me and let's be curious together about how much your life can transform one thought at a time. Visit the contact page of my site to book a session or send me a message to set up a discovery call. Much love.
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